Mother’s Day Musings

Mother's Day Gifts

A mother’s day post from a mom we all wish we knew

As an author and a woman, there are just some women authors I wish I had gotten the chance to meet and have a cup of coffee with.   You know the type: the ones who make you think: wow…she would have been a great neighbor.

Erma Bombeck was one of those women for me. I used to find her columns fun, and funny, and incredibly insightful on life and all it’s odd messinesses.

She died early in my journey as a mom – my oldest was barely knee high. I’m not even sure I appreciated her humor and insight quite as I do now. Few authors have the timeless quality of her words, if we’re being honest.

One of her columns, penned when I was a in my early teen years, speaks to so many of us today – especially today when the world seems out of control and we so desperately want to hit pause, or even stop, on life’s remote control. So, I want to share it with you as we celebrate Mother’s Day this weekend. This column just takes a moment to remind us, mom to mom, what really matters.

If I Had My Life to Live Over by Erma Bombeck (1979)

Someone asked me the other day if I had my life to live over would I change anything.

My answer was no, but then I thought about it and changed my mind.

If I had my life to live over again I would have waxed less and listened more.

Instead of wishing away nine months of pregnancy and complaining about the shadow over my feet, I’d have cherished every minute of it and realized that the wonderment growing inside me was to be my only chance in life to assist God in a miracle.

I would never have insisted the car windows be rolled up on a summer day because my hair had just been teased and sprayed.

I would have invited friends over to dinner even if the carpet was stained and the sofa faded.

I would have eaten popcorn in the “good” living room and worried less about the dirt when you lit the fireplace.

I would have taken the time to listen to my grandfather ramble about his youth.

I would have burnt the pink candle that was sculptured like a rose before it melted while being stored.

I would have sat cross-legged on the lawn with my children and never worried about grass stains.

I would have cried and laughed less while watching television … and more while watching real life.

I would have shared more of the responsibility carried by my husband which I took for granted.

I would have eaten less cottage cheese and more ice cream.

I would have gone to bed when I was sick, instead of pretending the Earth would go into a holding pattern if I weren’t there for a day.

I would never have bought ANYTHING just because it was practical/wouldn’t show soil/ guaranteed to last a lifetime.

When my child kissed me impetuously, I would never have said, “Later. Now, go get washed up for dinner.”

There would have been more I love yous … more I’m sorrys … more I’m listenings … but mostly, given another shot at life, I would seize every minute of it … look at it and really see it … try it on … live it … exhaust it … and never give that minute back until there was nothing left of it.

 

 

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